There is all kinds of advice out there about what makes a good school leader, from certifications to strategies to taking the latest seminar. But what so many people miss out on what is actually the most fundamental elements of great school leadership – hope.
You would not have reached where you are now if you didn’t know how to harness the power of hope. Hope not only in yourself, but also hope in the sincerity of your vision and the future that you are seeking to create for the children in your school. All school leaders need hope. Not just a spoonful of it – bags of it!
The future we all seek – the future we want to create for our young people – can only be created if you know how to hold onto your hope, your vision, your values and the belief that you can – and you will – make things better for the young people in your school.
We all know hope can be incredibly elusive. When external demands and pressures mount and crisis follows crisis, the light at the end of the tunnel can appear to be a very faint and distant glimmer. In such times, hope is just as essential for our own well-being as rain is for flowers in the desert. From the ever-expanding self-help shelves in bookshops to the growing body of research from the eld of social science, it is clear that hope is a human survival mechanism.
Hope, modern researchers are ending, does more than o er a bit of solace amidst affliction. It plays a surprisingly potent role in life, offering an advantage in realms as diverse as school achievement and bearing up in onerous jobs.
As you seek to move forward and continue in your endeavour to create new and emboldened futures for our young people, I want to share with you five lessons that I have discovered as a coach, which are essential for helping school leaders keep their hope alive.
Lesson 1—Learn to keep one eye backward and another eye forward
Here is a quote I came across a while ago, from Soren Kierkegaard…
Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.
Kierkegaard (Danish philosopher)
In essence, this is what reflection is about. In order to live more fully and to make progress with our lives, we need to have a process in place that enables us to develop a greater understanding of the journey, so that we can continue that journey with far deeper levels of insight and wisdom.
Throughout your life as a school leader, there will be moments when you can choose to start again. In the natural pauses of school life, there will be times when you can take learning from the past to create new, more aligned realities for yourself. They are, and should be, your personal times of both reflection and renewal.
We all learn to be ourselves though the process of living. It is paradoxical that we learn to be ourselves incidentally! The wider our experience of life and the more we learn to reflect on it and not take it for granted, the more we learn and the more we become whole people.
Lesson 2—Be connected
Leadership does not happen in a vacuum. Leaders need people, not only to follow them, but also to help them on their journey. The connections that you make as you move forward will have a great impact on the degree to which you are able to deal successfully with the challenges of school leadership. In school, and because of the nature of your role, relationships can often be one-dimensional, meaning that your total needs for human connection and relationship.
It might take a stretch of the imagination for you to believe this, but you do have a life outside your school! So it is important to invest in those other relationships that are beyond your life as a school leader. Actively search for relationships both within and outside your professional context that will:
– Give you constructive challenges.
– Open new learning opportunities.
– Allow you to be yourself.
– Create a space for you to be listened to.
– Affirm your Self-Worth
– Enable you to be in a role where you are not expected to have all the answers!
– Provide a space for you to be taken care of and have your needs met. Remember, you are a living, breathing, human being, not just your role!
Lesson 3—Learn the art of selfless leadership
We become our best selves through unselfish interaction with others.
Growing up in the 1980s, I was very much involved in the anti-apartheid movement. When Mandela passed away in 2013, I felt as if I had lost a dearly loved family member.
In an attempt to make sense of my feelings and what Mandela’s life had meant to me, I returned to a book that I had read only a few years ago, Mandela’s Way: Lessons on Life by Richard Stengel. Reflecting on Mandela’s leadership, Stengel writes that:
The African model of leadership is better expressed as Ubuntu, the idea that people are empowered by other people, that we become our best selves through unselfish interaction with others.
I’d like to think this is what coaching does. By putting aside one’s ego and the perceived need to have all the answers, one can create a space in which a person is empowered through the simple acts of listening and the total giving of one’s time and attention to the person they are with.
Lesson 4— Capture the golden moments
They are there and they are precious. They are the parts of your life as a school leader that re-a rm why you do what you do in the school that you are in and for the community you serve.
They are the parts of your school life that cause you to say at the end of each day ‘That’s the reason why I am here in this school, serving this community.’ One of my key golden moments was listening to our school gospel choir sing on a Tuesday after school.
At 4 o’clock I would walk into the school hall and there I would see Daniel, our charismatic choir master, bring his own unique blend of energy, laughter and musical wizardry into our school.
Amongst the many voices that sang out across the hall would be those of some of our most ‘challenging’ Year 6 boys, singing as though their lives depended on it. I would see the children proudly wearing gowns made from material that had been bought from the local market and made up by one of the parents.
Support staff would step up as leaders and lead the children in song with Daniel. I would see Maggie, a stalwart of a parent from the local estate; she had very little money, but every Monday morning could be depended on to arrive at the staff room door with her trolley of biscuits for all the staff.
She would stand with her mum, whom I affectionately called Nan, and sing along with the children in the choir.
In those moments, even when I had had the toughest of days, I would immediately be connected back to my passion and purpose. The weight of the day would lift and, even if at times it was just a temporary lift, it was enough to help me to continue to strive forward with my vision for the school and the community we served.
Your golden moments will be unique for you and your school. Whatever you do, don’t forget to collect them. As far as possible build them into either your daily, weekly or termly routine. They are the moments that will help to keep your flame of hope alive.
Lesson 5— Having the Support You Need
I believe that if leaders are to sustain consistently high levels of personal performance and keep their hope alive, they need non-judgemental support and a space for them to “drop the leadership mask”, reflect on how well they are doing the job and what they could do better with someone who is impartial and understands the challenges they’re experiencing.
Social workers have supervision to help them process their toughest cases, and corporate executives have space for “lessons learned” and continuous improvement between projects.
Likewise, school leaders need a space where they can talk openly and honestly through difficult situations, how they’re feeling and find solutions. Particularly with the challenges of Headship, such trusting and supportive relationships aren’t just helpful – they’re vital.
It is my belief that every school leader should have such support to ensure that when we fall down, we are supported to get back up again with renewed focus and energy and carry on towards our dream. However, often such support can be one of the hardest things to find.
That’s why I am now offering free “Coaching for The Soul” support calls for school leaders to ensure that no School Leader would have to struggle to find the support they need.
This Free 30 minute call with me will provide you with a confidential, safe space where you can:
– Talk through the challenges you’re currently facing in your role
– Get support in locating next steps and solutions to help you overcome the issues you’re experiencing
– Reflect on recent events and the impact they have had on you as a leader and as a person.
– Gain clarity in your thoughts and your current situation
Places are limited – so if you are determined to take charge of your own well-being, book today to avoid disappointment.