Coaching & Leadership Development
8 Ways of Thinking that can Hamper Your Performance

8 Ways of Thinking that can Hamper Your Performance

  Our thoughts influence how we feel and our feelings affect how we behave. It is only when we are listened to empathically that we are able to unpick how one affects the other. We make links between feelings and thoughts all the time in our daily lives. As a school leader, you do this constantly and probably do not realise the impact that the inter-relationship has on your levels of confidence and performance in the role.   For example, you feel miserable when you think about the school governor who constantly attempts to override your decisions; or you feel angry when you think about the member of staff who never has a good word to say about anything (particularly about you!); or you feel apprehensive when you think about a meeting that went wrong, knowing you don’t want the same thing to happen the next time around.   All of these are natural emotions. The danger that many school leaders fall victim to is that, left unprocessed, these emotions cause an internal blockage, so the ability to lead oneself with integrity becomes severely limited. These people may find themselves in situations where they begin to lose confidence. As a result they act in ways which, far from increasing their self-confidence, actually diminish it.   They adopt behaviours that do not match the image of the leader they really want to be. When they catch themselves behaving ‘out of character’, they may feel a mixture of shame, embarrassment, frustration, hurt and anger – emotions which, left unprocessed, decrease their ability to lead themselves and others with confidence and authenticity....